Sometimes spiritual epiphanies come after a struggle. Mine came after an argument with my husband. Without getting into too many details about our disagreement, the root of the argument stemmed from my frustration that my current family situation kept me from doing “God’s work.” As I prayed to God for guidance, he kindly spoke to my heart and told me that I did have the opportunity to do His work. That work was inside my home.
In an instant, all these verses starting coming to mind. The first one was I Timothy 3:5 “For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?” Although this verse is not specifically to talking to house wives, it spoke to me. God has an expectation that His church leaders have their house in order. In the same way, how can I serve the church and further God’s kingdom, if my house is not in order?
Well, what does it mean to have your house in order? I believe that is more than just having well behaved children and a functioning family. I believe that is having a family where all its members (children and adults) are all growing in the knowledge of God and have a genuine love for the things of God. Isn’t that God’s desire, that (I Timothy 2:4) all be saved and all come to a knowledge of the truth? Therefore, as a mother and wife, what does that mean for me?
It means that I must minister to my husband and to my children so that I Timothy 2:4 can be fulfilled in my household. That must be my first priority in God’s labor of love (I Thessalonians 1:3). Of course, that does not mean that I cannot reach out, and serve in the church, but I cannot let my guard down as far as my household is concerned.
As I write this, I am reminded of a conversation I had with a pastor with young children. He was telling me a story on how he and his wife had come to a decision to send their kids to a public school or a private Christian school. To help with that decision, he surveyed the young teens and young adults he was pastoring at the time. There were clearly some that were there at church because they had to be and others that were there because they had a genuine desire for God. He tried looking to see if the “schooling” they each had received was a common denominator in how these kids had turned out. He said it was clear to him that it did not matter whether the kids had gone to public school or christian school. The common denominator was in the relationship the parents had with their children. Parents who spent quality time teaching and ministering to their children, produced children who loved God. Parents who left that responsibility to someone else had children who did not appreciate God’s love.
It is clear that my children have one mother and my husband has one wife. I therefore need to roll up my sleeves and get to work.