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The Proverbs 31 Woman: A Woman of Valor

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If I want to fruitfully live for God, I need to understand who I am as a Christian, as a person, and as a woman. There are many resources that I can turn to on what a Christian should be, but I have often found myself frustrated with the discussions on womanhood. What was God’s purpose in creating women? What is their role? What is my role as a wife, a mother, a woman?

The image portrayed in sermons, books, discussions are mostly akin to a reflection of a 1950s housewife. And although some women are comfortable with that view (and many teach it), many women are not. I have found women in the church that feel oppressed, overlooked, discouraged, and frankly, are made to feel like they are the lesser creation. I see women who are afraid to give their opinions on theology and whose views are easily dismissed in mixed company. I write what I write for them. I publish my research and findings for them. Because a woman who is discouraged is not living to the full potential of her calling and the Church suffers for it.

Bad Teaching Leads to Women Feeling Undervalued

To allay any fears that I am here to ignore or dismiss the authorities that God has put in place, I want to be absolutely clear. I am not. I have no problems submitting even to the most difficult verses in the Bible as I know that I made a decision to follow a King. That means He makes the rules and I follow, whether I like them or not. I also have no issues being a housewife, as I am a stay-at-home-mom and happily so (although I have my moments). And I will be the first one to defend a woman’s choice to stay home with her children, IF that is what she and her husband have decided prayerfully is the best for their family.

But the more I study passages in the Bible relating to womanhood, the more I realized God’s definition of womanhood is at odds with what is being portrayed by mainstream Christianity. The problem with this is that women are being shortchanged in their understanding of womanhood and in the process many are left feeling less than worthy and worse, they have been afraid to use their gifting to its maximum potential. Or they are being overlooked, undervalued, and underused in the church and all because of bad teaching.

Women are being shortchanged in their understanding of womanhood and in the process many are left feeling less than worthy and worse, they have been afraid to use their gifting to its maximum potential. Click To Tweet

Why do I call it bad teaching? Well, we have taken our western values, traditions, and ideas and superimposed it on the Biblical text instead of reading the text for what it is and/or reading it in the context of Middle Eastern culture and history. (If you want a great example of this read my piece on How Jesus Empowered Women). Such is the case with Proverbs 31.  I am not the first one to write on this, but I hope as more woman do their own research and present their findings, we can have a more honest discussion using both the male AND female perspectives.

Proverbs 31:10 is a Good Place to Start.

When we look for a definition of womanhood, we quickly flip our Bibles to Proverbs 31. This is a woman who is highly praised and so it seems like the logical place to start. Note that this is not a study that is going to take Proverbs 31 verse by verse. Instead I want to first focus on the verse that sets the tone for the entire section of scripture and then talk a little about context. I want to lay out the framework and then let you take it verse by verse. The first verse of this acrostic poem, is Proverbs 31:10.

“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” Proverbs 31:10 ESV

The term excellent as found in the ESV is also as translated as noble character, virtuous, worthy, and good in other English versions of the Bible. (I looked at fourteen versions to be exact by doing a quick survey in the Blue Letter Bible ). In other words, when you read this verse in your English Bible you will likely walk away with the idea that this ideal woman is virtuous and/or noble. Unfortunately, that is not what the verse is talking about at all.

These words (excellent, noble, virtuous) are translated from the ancient Hebrew word pronounced as “chayil.”  Chayil is what appears in the ancient versions of the manuscripts the Bible is based on. It is the Hebrew word that was used to render our current English translation. The problem? It is erroneously translated. Why do I know this? Because by looking at how this same word is translated in other parts of the Bible, it doesn’t even come close to excellent nor noble nor virtuous.

The True Meaning of a Chayil Woman

If you click here, you will find a Biblical outline of how this word chayil is translated throughout the Bible. It is translated as army 56 times, as man of valor 37 times, as host 29 times (as in a military host that is), as forces 14 times, as valiant 13 times, as strength 12 times, as riches 11 times, as wealth 10 times, and so on. The Gesenius’ Hebrew-Chaldee Lexicon says that the meaning of this word is strength, power, might (especially warlike), and valor. Below are some examples of how chayil is translated in other sections of scripture.

II Chronicles 17:17  Of Benjamin: Eliada, a mighty man of valor [chayil], with 200,000 men armed with bow and shield. ESV

Exodus 14:9 The Egyptians pursued them, all Pharaoh’s horses and chariots and his horsemen and his army [chayil], and overtook them encamped at the sea, by Pi-hahiroth, in front of Baal-zephon. ESV

II Samuel 17:10 Then even the valiant [chayil] man, whose heart is like the heart of a lion, will utterly melt with fear, for all Israel knows that your father is a mighty man, and that those who are with him are valiant [chayil] men. ESV

Do you see the disconnect with the English translations of Proverbs 31:10?

Proverbs 31:10 is not talking about an excellent or noble wife. It is talking about a strong, valiant, or even warrior-like wife. Not that there is anything wrong with being excellent or noble or virtuous. Those are all good things but we have to be true to the scripture and interpret the verse in light of what it is actually saying.

Proverbs 31:10 is not talking about an excellent or noble wife. It is talking about a strong, valiant, or even warrior-like wife. Click To Tweet

When I first discovered this, it had a tremendous impact on me. It redefined how I view myself as a woman and how I would raise my daughters. Yes, I want them to grow up showing the love of Christ and having noble and virtuous qualities. But I also want them to be strong, brave, and warrior-like in their faith and spiritual walk. I want them to be tenacious and bold. I want them to be chayil women, women of valor.

Proverbs 31 was not Written for Women.

Proverbs 31 woman of valor for the discouraged woman image

Although as Christian women we consider this “our” section of scripture, the reality is that the sage advice found in Proverbs 31 was given by a woman to a man, a mother to her son to be exact. As we learn early on in verse 1, these are oracles that were taught to King Lemuel by his mother. This was first brought to my attention in a blog I read, Eshet Chayil: A Hebraic Perspective, as I researched this topic. There are also commentaries that agree with the view that the intended audience was a man.

Why does this matter? Because as women, when we read everything that the Proverbs 31 woman was able to do, we sometimes get discouraged and feel like there is no way that we can live up to that list. She was a business woman, she planted her own fields, she gave to the poor, and so on. It is overwhelming to think about. However, rest easy women, the point of this section of scripture is not about how we are to live up to it (although there is certainly lots of wisdom to be gleaned from it). Rather, I believe that the point is for men to appreciate all that God-fearing women do.

This takes us back to the word chayil. God doesn’t do anything half-heartedly. Every word in scripture has a purpose and a place. This poem about this woman, written for a man, was spirit-inspired and made it into our Bibles for a reason. Why would God use this military word chayil that was usually used to refer to men of war? What would a man reading this get out of it?

As I meditated and prayed through these questions, I thought of my husband. He is a retired Marine. He is a man’s man. Men easily gravitate to him. Why? I think it is the warrior in him. I also thought about the men that produce awe in my husband. They are the valiant warriors. They are the guys that will battle through enemy riddle streets against all odds. They are the Chesty Pullers and the Chris Kyles of the world. As a student of war, I have also found that warriors are bound to other warriors and King Lemuel was likely a warrior. Out of necessity, kings from that time frame usually were seasoned men of war.

So here is this king who most likely understands the warriors heart. He receives a poem from his mother that refers to a highly praised woman as a valiant woman, as a chayil woman. Why? Because the intent is to get the king to appreciate this woman and her efforts to the same degree that he would value any mighty man of war. That what this woman does day in and day out is just as brave and valiant as a soldier in the midst of war. Ladies, if that doesn’t give you goose bumps, I don’t know what will.

If you ever wondered if God notices what you do, reading Proverbs 31 should put that to rest. He wants men to see you and give you the same value that they would give their war brothers. God sees you, the woman that loves Him, that fights for her family, her church, her community, as valiant, and strong, and a warrior.

For Further Discussion

Now that I have laid out this framework it is time for an exercise. I invite you to reread Proverbs 31 with your new understanding of the meaning of the word chayil. The word appears at the beginning in Proverbs 31:10 but also towards the end in Proverbs 31:29. All of her works are encapsuled by these two verses that speak of her valor and strength. (Feel free to also read my blog on Proverbs 31:17, Woman, Gird Up Your Loins.) With that in mind,

How does the true meaning of chayil change your understanding of this section of scripture?

How does knowing that this poem was written for a man change your perception of this section of scripture?

As you read the poem, what in each verse demonstrates her strength and valor?

Do you see other military terminology used? Where?

Do some of these other verses in Proverbs 31 now take on a different light?

—Which ones?

—And how?

How does it change how you view yourself as a woman and a wife?

If you have daughters, how does this change how you want to raise your daughters?

—Does it change how you want them to see themselves?

I am interested in your thoughts! Please comment below!


  1. Donna Nabors

    We are strong women putting on the armor of Christ just as any Christian man or woman. Thank you for posting.

  2. Melinda Viergever Inman

    God bless you, sister! I came of age in the 1970s and received all of that bad teaching. Since the 1990s, I’ve generally just ignored this chapter of Proverbs because I knew our understanding of it was out of sync with God’s view of women, but didn’t know how, even though I own and use a concordance. Even talking about this triggers all those sickening emotions. Yuck! Thank you for this in-depth analysis, so sadly lacking. Valor and strength and warrior-like equipping would have been helpful in a time when we taught our daughters to be “nice,” as we had been taught, and for equipping sons in what to seek in a woman. Those truths sank in eventually, but how much better might we have equipped our daughters in that era had we known we were to be like valiant warriors?

    1. Luisa Rodriguez (Post author)

      Thank you for your thoughtful comments always. I too feel that I wished I had really been able to define this earlier and that I had written this post earlier. But I am thankful that I can help encourage a new generation of women.

  3. Michelle Broussard

    Thank you for writing this! Very encouraging and uplifting.

    1. Luisa Rodriguez (Post author)

      I am so glad that you were encouraged by it!!

  4. Melissa McLaughlin

    Luisa, thank you for giving all of the background information to shed greater light on the words used in Proverbs 31. I am asking God to help me become a prayer warrior and I do see how God has positioned me in my role as a woman and wife to commit more of my time to this endeavor. Sometimes being a woman, God can uniquely use you in powerful ways to advance His kingdom. Thank you for encouraging us in this regard, while
    at the same time maintaining a reverent and obedient attitude toward the truth of God’s Word. Blessings!

  5. Beth Bingaman

    Great teaching in this post. Thanks so much – it is inspiring! Though I have believed (and try to live) that these things are true, I appreciate the study of the word to KNOW that I have even more ammo for my arguments on this topic.

    1. Luisa Rodriguez (Post author)

      I am so glad that this is helpful for you!

  6. Brianna Martin

    Luisa, this is very interesting! I am looking forward to doing a thorough study of this word “chayil” myself! Thank you for making me think and rethink this passage of scripture. I also really resonated with your statement that “…a woman who is discouraged is not living to the full potential of her calling…” So much damage is done when we continually push women down. Thank you so much for sharing!

    1. Luisa Rodriguez (Post author)

      That is great that you will be doing your now study on the word “chayil.” My goal is for women to look into it themselves and hence why I tried to provide links to the resources I used.

  7. Jamie | One Word Faith

    You’ve provided me new inspiration to re-study Proverbs 31 with a different lens, thank you! I appreciate the extra study questions at the end of your article, which I will certainly put to use.

    1. Luisa Rodriguez (Post author)

      Glad to hear it Jaime!

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  11. Edna Davidsen

    Dear Luisa!

    I loved the first sentence of this blog post.

    You said: “If I want to fruitfully live for God, I need to understand who I am as a Christian, as a person, and as a woman.”

    That’s a great point.

    What you do, and who you write for is important.

    It’s so positive that we women have gotten a new and never before seen opportunity to express ourselves with the Internet.

    Sure, the Proverbs 31 woman was a strong woman 🙂

    After reading your blog post, I came to think of how often we limit ourselves by talking and thinking negatively about who we are.

    Posts like this one help us see the true value when walking with Christ.

    One interesting aspect with the culture surrounding the proverb 31 woman is that she lives in a culture where the man spend their time on café while the women work – a la the culture in Middle East 🙂

    Edna Davidsen

    1. Luisa Rodriguez (Post author)

      Thank you Edna. Your comment about Middle Eastern culture made me think of verse 23 where it says ,”Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.” Makes me wonder if what God is was trying to get here is, her husband can sit at the gates with the elders because this woman is working so hard and has everything under control!

  12. Edna Davidsen

    That’s funny, Luisa. That verse is the reason I brought the topic up in my comment.

    I believe that there’s so much to learn when taken contemporary culture into account when we seek an understanding of biblical topics.


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